Education of children

What's an interesting topic, You can a be a good director you know how you convince people. But when you enter your house, you don't manage your children.
If they express their wants, you have only two choices :
1- You grant them;
2- You are confronted to the anger of your children, they begin to be inobedient in other words you are imprisoned by your children.

You can have an other reaction, you will punish them and it will relieve the pain just a short moment and no more.

What I have to suggest you and to let you thing, children even if they are young, they have needs, they have objectives, try to understand their objectives before they can understand yours and don't say YOU HAVE TO THIS; WHY IT'S LIKE THIS;
It's a mistake, and a grave on, there is nothing in the word like this, in the company every one knows that if you want a procedure to be respected you have to explain what are their benefits, and to keep alert to the reactions of people, their resistances, all this is full of knowledge, and you have to adapt you acts in harmony of what you see, what you feel, what you understand.
How many times we expect of our parents just listening and they are often blocked by their experience, their believes.
Trust your children, communicate with them and responsabilize them, you will see the change.
It's sure you can't responsabilize them without precising and clarifying the values.
Your children will constitute her values but it's your duty to monitor them you have more experience of course, but you can't oblige your children to be like you, have the same job, the same hobbies...